我可以在插入不同php的新行后将参数传递给jquery

this is my jquery coding

$('#btnKirimPesan').click(function(){
        $('#bantu').load('kirim_pesan.php', {'emailPenerima': $('#emailPenerima').val(), 'isiPesan': $('.isiPesan').val()});
    });

then this is on kirim_pesan.php

<?
include('../../config/buka_koneksi_db.php');
$query = "INSERT INTO pesan(emailPenerima, emailPengirim, statusBaca, isiPesan, waktuPesan) VALUES((SELECT emailUser FROM user WHERE MD5(emailUser) = '".$_POST['emailPenerima']."'), '".$_SESSION['email']."', 0, '".$_POST['isiPesan']."', NOW('d/m/Y/H/i/s'))";
$hasilQuery = mysql_query($query);
if(mysql_affected_rows()>=1)
    $hasil = 1;
    else
            $hasil = 0;
include('../../config/tutup_koneksi_db.php');
?>

The jquery coding and query inserting new row is in different file. I want to reload a div in jquery file(it's php file) if only $hasil = 1;, if its == 0, I'll show dialog which say "your message has not been sent"...how can i do it??please help me...>,<...thx before

The load() jQuery method places the HTML returned by the server inside the element. So, assuming that #bantu is the ID of the div where you want to show the message, changing your kirim_pesan.php file to the following should do it:

<?
include('../../config/buka_koneksi_db.php');
$query = "INSERT INTO pesan(emailPenerima, emailPengirim, statusBaca, isiPesan, waktuPesan) VALUES((SELECT emailUser FROM user WHERE MD5(emailUser) = '".$_POST['emailPenerima']."'), '".$_SESSION['email']."', 0, '".$_POST['isiPesan']."', NOW('d/m/Y/H/i/s'))";
$hasilQuery = mysql_query($query);
if(mysql_affected_rows()>=1)
    echo "Message sent!";
else
    echo "Your message has not been sent.";
?>

Documentation: http://api.jquery.com/load/

Using jQuery load() you are loading the contents of the output of kirim_pesan.php in the element with ID #bantu. So anything you echo for example in you php script, will appear in your #bantu element:

if(mysql_affected_rows()>=1)
{
    $hasil = 1;
    echo "Data has been added";
}
    else
{
    $hasil = 0;
    echo "Your message has not been sent";
}

Note that for a dialog to pop-up, you will need some additional javascript but if you are already using dialogs, that should not be that hard, just use the output of the php script.